5 WAYS TO BE A BETTER FRIEND

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1. Be supportive.

Your friend should be your cheerleader. Especially in times when you are doing good and when you need it the most.

People believe that support has to be financial but you can provide support in other ways; emotional

Giving support is not always easy especially when we have our own shit going on that we’re not too happy about. But being able to put that ego aside for your friend shows that you care enough to try to be there for them, one way or another.

2 .Be vulnerable.

A friendship requires intimacy. Otherwise you might as well call yourselves associates or strangers. The point of a friend is to have another person you trust enough to confide in, tell your fears, with them and still feel safe. A friendship is more than parties, watching movies, together, playing games, going out to eat and fun fun fun all the time. If you do not feel safe talking to …then maybe you have some …..issues or that person may not be compatible enough for you. Vulnerability allows guards to be put down and reassures this person that you are trying to build a connection with that you trust them. That you value this friendship, that you value them and their opinions. It will ultimately build a stronger bond as time goes by. You show them that you trust them with yourself, with everything that you are, the good bad and ugly.

Being vulnerable also entails you being humble enough to come to your friend if you have hurt them in anyway. Keeping unresolved problems at bay and just trying to skip over them as if you’ve done nothing will only build resentment in the friendship.

3. Be honest.

Too many people are walking around with friends that are just YES men. Do not be one of those friends. Care enough for them to say something when you see them going down a bad path before they spiral all the way down to the pits of hell.

Some friends aid in their friend’s demise simply because they do not want to hurt their feelings or get into disagreements or arguments. I would say fights but your friend shouldn’t be putting hands on you to begin with. If so, that ain’t your friend. Anyways, Be compelled enough to want to see them do better in life, even if it makes them upset to find out that you feel concerned about their behaviors. They will respect you more for it, maybe not now, maybe not the next day but hopefully in the long run.

And if your friend is the type to get way too upset and …about you expressing your concerns to them, something may be wrong. You should be able to feel comfortable enough to tell your friend the truth That is the respect and …one another. You shouldn’t be walking on eggshells …everything you have to …….then it doesn’t really sound like a friendship at all. As long as you are not coming off condescending in any way, you’re not purposely trying to hurt them, then you should be free to speak.

4. Compliment them!

Just make sure the compliments are genuine and come from the heart. Flattery feeds your ego, compliments feeds their soul. I’ve been around friends that have made me do a double take when they complimented me. I was like huh. That’s because they would give what you call a back handed compliment. Or the ones that just sounded like they were pulling teeth just to get it out. Like for all of that, you could’ve kept it ✋🏼 lol. It’s okay to let your friend know the qualities you admire about them that they possess. The things you love most about them. Their hair, their style, their work ethic. This not only makes your friend feel good but it makes you feel good too. I mean they are your friend, why withhold the good that you see in them.

5. Reach out!

Check up on…even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you are going through…I struggle with reaching out to people sometimes, I’m always too much in my head.

Sometimes we truly don’t know what someone is going through and if we’re too busy waiting for the other person to reach out, we might not ever get to speak them. If you care about that friend, show them just by acknowledging their existence/presence while they are still here and available to you. Let them know they are on your mind and thinking about them even if it’s for a few minutes. And trust me I speak to myself when I…