WHAT GOSSIP SAYS ABOUT YOU
confidence in your own worth and abilities. Having self respect.
(Funny. We all love to sip a little tea til it’s about us 👀☕️) Wouldn’t you like to know?
I get it, sometimes we run out of things to talk about …Well..find other things to talk about.
Gossip: spreading idle information about others especially private or personal and can be just rumor.
Rumor: a currently circulating story or report of uncertain or doubtful truth.
“Great minds discuss events, average minds discuss ideas and small minds discuss people.”
There’s this quote I ran into that read “Great minds discuss events, average minds discuss ideas and small minds discuss people” -Elenor Roosevelt.
I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be average and much worse, small!? It is very common to hear gossip within social groups. We’ve all been there ..talking badly about someone. Hell, some of us just got done doing it today. And I bet it felt good! Sometimes it feels like a relief to let out all of our inner thoughts, our built up frustration and anger towards said person.
There are too many things going on in the world to be discussing what one person has going on in their lives or to put focus on one person.
It feels too good getting everyone to agree with you. Yes, She is annoying, He is …Yes, her breath does stink.
I myself struggle with correcting this behavior, this character flaw. That is what it is, a character flaw. We may want to pass gossip off as harmless chit chat. A time filler and even a bonding tool as a means for social interaction and connection but that is not all it is.
The only time we feel the ….of gossip is when the roles have reversed and it is done to us. Now you become the butt of jokes. You become the talk of the town. You are the only one who doesn’t know about the whispers about you. It’s downright hurtful.
We think we are hurting the other person, when we are only hurting ourselves. We smear our reputation as someone who can be:
Vindictive.
The times I have gossiped about someone, was when they have offended me first. I don’t necessarily do it as a get back but I would be a liar if I said that it didn’t feel good in the moment to .
Inconsiderate.
A lot of the time, gossip is done in the heat of the moment, You don’t consider how this could hurt the person’s feelings or their reputation. We don’t even consider how it could effect our relationship with them in the long run. In our selfish need to vent, we say a lot of thoughtless things that’s we may not even mean. Although people listen, they too can look at you as someone who is inconsiderate of the people’s feelings. As someone who doesn’t think, just talks; the opposite of a caring person.
Insecure.
Usually it is those who are most unhappy with themselves that tend to talk badly about others. Let’s test this theory. In those moments when you’ve spoken badly about someone, I want you to take yourself back. How were you feeling about yourself at the time? What were the thoughts going on in your head? Most likely it wasn’t anything good. Hurting the other person helped you appease the pain you were already feeling.
Untrustworthy.
Disingenuous. Two-faced, especially when you are doing it to someone you call a friend, someone you say you love. Sometimes we gossip because how we truly feel about the person, we do not have the courage to say to their face. Not only that but it also raises doubt in people that if you are capable of doing to another person, then surely this can be done to me. No one wants to realistically be around someone that they can not trust with their secrets, personal business and.
Lack of integrity.
It may come off innocent but it actually reveals A LOT about one’s character. This goes hand and hand with being untrustworthy because …
It is better to spread positivity and speak highly of someone than to tear them down. The good old saying goes “If you don’t nothing good to say than don’t say it at all.”
“He that goeth about as a tale bearer revealeth secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.”
“The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.
Burning lips and a wicked heart are like a potsherd covered with silver dross.
He that hateth dissembleth with his lips, and layeth up deceit within him;
When he speaketh fair, believe him not: for there are seven abominations in his heart (haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that are quick to shed blood, a heart that devise the wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and who spreads strife amongst others)
Whose hatred is covered by deceit, his wickedness shall be shown before the whole congregation.”
“A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin.” Proverbs 26:28
backbiting- talk maliciously about someone who is not present.
Gossip- casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about others.
Talebearer- a person who maliciously gossips or reveals secrets.
Slander- to defame. To harm or destroy the good reputation of.
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